Counselling for Life After Divorce
It’s over. You have signed the divorce papers and the relationship you originally entered with so much hope, is dissolved. After the initial relief that the legal issues are completed, you may begin to assess your life now and feel overwhelmed or bleak. You may wonder, ‘What happened?’ ‘Why did it all go wrong?’ You may be confused about where to go from here, or even wonder if future happiness is possible at all.
This is not a time to go through life alone or to get isolated. While friends may be there for you, they will probably want to cheer you up and simply not have the time or skills to deal with the roller-coaster of emotions which you are feeling. However, in counselling, there is as much space and time as you need, to express all that you feel. Going through divorce is deeply wounding, and in counselling you don’t have to put a brave face on things, or worry about the impact of your words on others.
One major aspect of counselling will be to help you understand what went wrong. Assessing the past in this way is necessary for you to let go of it and move forward in your life, sure that you won’t make the same mistakes again. In counselling you can also grieve for the loss of the past, the loss of your original hopes and dreams about the relationship, and for your ex – or at least for how they originally appeared to you.
Counselling for Life After Divorce will help you let go of your anger as well as other painful and difficult feelings. This is essential so that your feelings don’t hold you back from moving on or loving again. Counselling is also practical. It’s an opportunity to work out and set small goals which will help you to regain your confidence and self-esteem. Over time, with professional help, life will no longer look grey and you will find a new sense of purpose and deeper groundedness and maturity, which come from having fully assimilated what has happened to you.